You have a lot to do? You feel you have no time? You feel overwhelmed with many tasks? You lose concentration? Do you feel you need help? It is time to stop.
Slow down in your life, specially for a Mum. Stop being overwhelmed or else you will lose concentration.
Examples are many,
One of Oprah’s guest is a mother who was overwhelmed with doing everything herself. The woman was suffering the pressure to become the perfect mum, which made her lose concentration and along with the loss of concentration she lost her child. As a daily routine, the father was supposed to take his little girl to kindergarten. One day the mother had to take her daughter instead. What happened is that the mother was engaged in her daily routine; preparing breakfast, helping her children to dress and go to school, preparing herself to go to work….etc. The mother took her daughter in her car. BUT WHAT HAPPENED?
The mother went to work and forgot her daughter in the car. The girl died of high car temperature.
Another mother put her son for a nap. She started working in the house; she was already frustrated. She heard her son crying, she ignored his cries wishing he will sleep. After 2 or 3 minutes, she felt the sound was not right. She went to check on him, and what did she find?
She found a rope around the child’s neck. She saved him.
Both mothers wanted to be the perfect mums; mums who prepare breakfast, put hot meals on the table every day, take full care of the children..etc. They believe they should do every little thing themselves. They believe they should not seek help or rest. This made one of them say “I’m not getting any joy of my children”. Their children became a heavy burden.
These perfect mothers had the courage to appear on the Shaw. People (specially mums) are very critical towards each others. They give themselves the right to judge other mothers and call them imperfect. This adds stress on each mother to strive to be the PERFECT mother.
A family specialist in the Shaw gave suggestions to solve this issue of mother’s overwhelming state of mind:
Taking care of yourself helps you to have a healthy state of mind and a better attitude towards others. Since every mother is trying to do the best she can, we have to help each others instead of taking the role of a judge.
From Oprah Winfrey Show
Slow down in your life, specially for a Mum. Stop being overwhelmed or else you will lose concentration.
Examples are many,
One of Oprah’s guest is a mother who was overwhelmed with doing everything herself. The woman was suffering the pressure to become the perfect mum, which made her lose concentration and along with the loss of concentration she lost her child. As a daily routine, the father was supposed to take his little girl to kindergarten. One day the mother had to take her daughter instead. What happened is that the mother was engaged in her daily routine; preparing breakfast, helping her children to dress and go to school, preparing herself to go to work….etc. The mother took her daughter in her car. BUT WHAT HAPPENED?
The mother went to work and forgot her daughter in the car. The girl died of high car temperature.
Another mother put her son for a nap. She started working in the house; she was already frustrated. She heard her son crying, she ignored his cries wishing he will sleep. After 2 or 3 minutes, she felt the sound was not right. She went to check on him, and what did she find?
She found a rope around the child’s neck. She saved him.
Both mothers wanted to be the perfect mums; mums who prepare breakfast, put hot meals on the table every day, take full care of the children..etc. They believe they should do every little thing themselves. They believe they should not seek help or rest. This made one of them say “I’m not getting any joy of my children”. Their children became a heavy burden.
These perfect mothers had the courage to appear on the Shaw. People (specially mums) are very critical towards each others. They give themselves the right to judge other mothers and call them imperfect. This adds stress on each mother to strive to be the PERFECT mother.
A family specialist in the Shaw gave suggestions to solve this issue of mother’s overwhelming state of mind:
Taking care of yourself is the highest priority:
- Take 20 to 30 minutes early in the morning to digest yesterday’s emotions.
- Ask for help. Say “I’m not doing well” without being ashamed of it.
- Focus on one task. Do not do so many things at the same time.
- Be pleasant with everything you do. Try to see the positive side.
- Whenever your CHILD is present, focus with him.
Taking care of yourself helps you to have a healthy state of mind and a better attitude towards others. Since every mother is trying to do the best she can, we have to help each others instead of taking the role of a judge.
From Oprah Winfrey Show
