Break Open
Whatever troubles you are facing in your life, by looking at it in a spiritual level, you will know it is going to be alright.
Your hard times make you blossom like a rose [grow-evolve]
In crisis times, you may feel that you have lost yourself. However, in the depth of that loss you will find out who you really are. You will begin to trust in who you are. This crisis time is
a precious time, NOT a waste. When somebody faces a crisis, he must ask himself this question:
What are you coming to teach me?
What are you coming to teach me about myself?
Look at your crisis and your pain fearlessly and say:
Teach me so I can grow.
When you are facing bad times you have to make a courageous decision:
To take all that pain and crack it open or to shutdown
All people face difficult times in their life, it is the rule of life; the key is to know how to deal with it in a deeper spiritual level. Being spiritual is feeling that there is a power in your life that guides you. It is to be connected to your deep self. Life is a state of openness, be aware of the aliveness of life around you. That aliveness which you see in all the natural beauty in trees, hills, drops of water and the breeze of air. Feel all the creativity, joy, peace and love that God has blessed in life.
Look at your bad times as your holiness moments that make your soul rise. Here is an example of a couple facing divorce; both the man and the woman are feeling exhausted, sick, impatient and angry. If they do not make a move, they will never know how their life can change. Nothing is burning their heart as much as the pain of breaking a family. Most of their lives they cared about what their society thinks them to be. They made a decision to break open that pain and trust whom they are and what is better for their children who find it is better to share a separated healthy minded and emotional parents rather than a broken couple. From that bad experience evolves two peaceful, strong and deep connected selves. Of course, for others it is better to work on their marriage and protect it.
Bad times are the times in which you have to practice your spirituality, saying I want to be that person that I am capable to be. We think that we are unhappy of what we do not get but we are unhappy of what we are not giving. In front of every person there is a choice, his heart can be opened or closed, he can be judgmental or give support. The spiritual path is a choice to be the best we can.
Another example of parents facing the most difficult time in which their son died. For them everything changes forever and their feelings about things. They do not know how to deal with that pain. The only thing they knew is that they have to do it well. They have two places to go; hope or despair. They chose to take the path of hope, one moment at a time, they were gentle with their grief they knew it was a journey and a process. If you do not grief well, this pain will transfer to anger and evil pain. It took them nine years in their spiritual awakening. Before their son's death, they were considered religious but they were not spiritual. There is a great difference between being religious and connecting yourself, your life and what is happening around you to the spirituality of this religion. For instance, some people are religious but they do not pray, others do their prayers without feeling or concentrating on what they are saying, so there are different levels of practicing your spirituality in your ever day life.
The key to spirituality is by practicing it, by being kinder, more compassionate and more conscious of the deep meaning of being alive. As the lawyer practices law, as the doctor practices medicine, to be spiritual you have to practice spirituality. In your spiritual journey:
Back to the story of the son who died. His brother talked about his own spiritual awakening saying that, to him life was like a picture on the wall in which you think you know how your life is going and what you are expecting, but when his brother died this picture of life was shattered to many pieces. He felt there was no way to put it back again. He was shocked looking at those broken pieces. His brain could not solve this dilemma. He thought he would always feel
this way. Then, he experienced his spiritual awakening in his spiritual journey, when he was doing a simple thing: he was grilling some fish and he was happy. He said that if I was happy of my life from this simple thing, then I can do more in my life; good things can happen in my life. He said, he realized that: I can get through this difficult time, I can move forward not in the same picture but I can create a new one.
When your picture of life is broken, consider it old and create a brand new one.
For the spiritual awakening of the father after his son's death, he said at first he was focusing on his work, gaining money to provide for his family the best, he was doing it right; doing all his best. When the death happened he felt he failed. The death of his son broke him open by asking himself: What is really important in my life? What is my purpose here? What am I going to do with the rest of my precious life? The death of his son showed him that nobody knows what is going to happen in life. He decided to live life now. He chose to quit his job and found a little one for which he had passion but with less money. They, himself and his wife, decided to give back to the community that showered them with love and support in their great loss. When you help you heal. They learned in their spiritual path that you are here to serve, to use yourself in service but do not do it as a must; it must come from deep inside of you. They felt those deep great moments in life, they felt free and attached to something larger.
In your own spiritual journey, meditate one minute every day then increase them each month. You will take a fantastic guidance and your life will change. If you do not take it, you are not worth a minute, then you are not on the path. Problems come to all people, having problems is in the human dictionary in life time. Instead of fighting with your problem and not accepting it, ask the question:
what is embedded in you [in problem] for me? What are you going to teach me?
The world is rich of messages, if you are open to see them. If you reach the problem as a friend, you will see your capabilities and the possibilities around you.
Find a spiritual community; friends who share your spiritual path. Pay attention to your life, it is talking to you, nothing is happening in a chaotic way. Spirituality is the essence of everything, all human beings on earth are having their spiritual experiences but they have to be awake, like the radio which needs to be tuned or it will not work.
From Oprah Winfrey Show
[A strange thing happened to me after writing the first half of this article, my computer shutdown and this article was not saved. For a moment I became sad and angry as I was going to write it once more and have to organize all my thoughts again. I was about to shutdown as my computer and then came to my mind the thought of practicing what you preach. I said to myself it is God's will and you may see something as being bad but it is for your own good. I became open to write it once more and I did. I discover that I wrote it much better in the second time. I have my little spiritual experience of the day, only when I accepted, it God helped me to do better.]
Marwa
In crisis times, you may feel that you have lost yourself. However, in the depth of that loss you will find out who you really are. You will begin to trust in who you are. This crisis time is
a precious time, NOT a waste. When somebody faces a crisis, he must ask himself this question:What are you coming to teach me?
What are you coming to teach me about myself?
Look at your crisis and your pain fearlessly and say:
Teach me so I can grow.
When you are facing bad times you have to make a courageous decision:
To take all that pain and crack it open or to shutdown
All people face difficult times in their life, it is the rule of life; the key is to know how to deal with it in a deeper spiritual level. Being spiritual is feeling that there is a power in your life that guides you. It is to be connected to your deep self. Life is a state of openness, be aware of the aliveness of life around you. That aliveness which you see in all the natural beauty in trees, hills, drops of water and the breeze of air. Feel all the creativity, joy, peace and love that God has blessed in life.
Look at your bad times as your holiness moments that make your soul rise. Here is an example of a couple facing divorce; both the man and the woman are feeling exhausted, sick, impatient and angry. If they do not make a move, they will never know how their life can change. Nothing is burning their heart as much as the pain of breaking a family. Most of their lives they cared about what their society thinks them to be. They made a decision to break open that pain and trust whom they are and what is better for their children who find it is better to share a separated healthy minded and emotional parents rather than a broken couple. From that bad experience evolves two peaceful, strong and deep connected selves. Of course, for others it is better to work on their marriage and protect it.
Bad times are the times in which you have to practice your spirituality, saying I want to be that person that I am capable to be. We think that we are unhappy of what we do not get but we are unhappy of what we are not giving. In front of every person there is a choice, his heart can be opened or closed, he can be judgmental or give support. The spiritual path is a choice to be the best we can.
Another example of parents facing the most difficult time in which their son died. For them everything changes forever and their feelings about things. They do not know how to deal with that pain. The only thing they knew is that they have to do it well. They have two places to go; hope or despair. They chose to take the path of hope, one moment at a time, they were gentle with their grief they knew it was a journey and a process. If you do not grief well, this pain will transfer to anger and evil pain. It took them nine years in their spiritual awakening. Before their son's death, they were considered religious but they were not spiritual. There is a great difference between being religious and connecting yourself, your life and what is happening around you to the spirituality of this religion. For instance, some people are religious but they do not pray, others do their prayers without feeling or concentrating on what they are saying, so there are different levels of practicing your spirituality in your ever day life.
The key to spirituality is by practicing it, by being kinder, more compassionate and more conscious of the deep meaning of being alive. As the lawyer practices law, as the doctor practices medicine, to be spiritual you have to practice spirituality. In your spiritual journey:
- learn something new about yourself and the people around you everyday
- Write down ten things you are grateful for in your life
- Do an act of kindness everyday
Back to the story of the son who died. His brother talked about his own spiritual awakening saying that, to him life was like a picture on the wall in which you think you know how your life is going and what you are expecting, but when his brother died this picture of life was shattered to many pieces. He felt there was no way to put it back again. He was shocked looking at those broken pieces. His brain could not solve this dilemma. He thought he would always feel
this way. Then, he experienced his spiritual awakening in his spiritual journey, when he was doing a simple thing: he was grilling some fish and he was happy. He said that if I was happy of my life from this simple thing, then I can do more in my life; good things can happen in my life. He said, he realized that: I can get through this difficult time, I can move forward not in the same picture but I can create a new one.When your picture of life is broken, consider it old and create a brand new one.
For the spiritual awakening of the father after his son's death, he said at first he was focusing on his work, gaining money to provide for his family the best, he was doing it right; doing all his best. When the death happened he felt he failed. The death of his son broke him open by asking himself: What is really important in my life? What is my purpose here? What am I going to do with the rest of my precious life? The death of his son showed him that nobody knows what is going to happen in life. He decided to live life now. He chose to quit his job and found a little one for which he had passion but with less money. They, himself and his wife, decided to give back to the community that showered them with love and support in their great loss. When you help you heal. They learned in their spiritual path that you are here to serve, to use yourself in service but do not do it as a must; it must come from deep inside of you. They felt those deep great moments in life, they felt free and attached to something larger.
In your own spiritual journey, meditate one minute every day then increase them each month. You will take a fantastic guidance and your life will change. If you do not take it, you are not worth a minute, then you are not on the path. Problems come to all people, having problems is in the human dictionary in life time. Instead of fighting with your problem and not accepting it, ask the question:
what is embedded in you [in problem] for me? What are you going to teach me?
The world is rich of messages, if you are open to see them. If you reach the problem as a friend, you will see your capabilities and the possibilities around you.
Find a spiritual community; friends who share your spiritual path. Pay attention to your life, it is talking to you, nothing is happening in a chaotic way. Spirituality is the essence of everything, all human beings on earth are having their spiritual experiences but they have to be awake, like the radio which needs to be tuned or it will not work.
From Oprah Winfrey Show
[A strange thing happened to me after writing the first half of this article, my computer shutdown and this article was not saved. For a moment I became sad and angry as I was going to write it once more and have to organize all my thoughts again. I was about to shutdown as my computer and then came to my mind the thought of practicing what you preach. I said to myself it is God's will and you may see something as being bad but it is for your own good. I became open to write it once more and I did. I discover that I wrote it much better in the second time. I have my little spiritual experience of the day, only when I accepted, it God helped me to do better.]
Marwa
